"Is my child ready for school?" is one of the most common worries parents of neurodivergent children carry into the year before Reception. It is also a slightly unhelpful question, because it makes readiness sound like a test your child either passes or fails.
It is not. Children start school at every level of skill and confidence, and none of the things on a readiness list are a requirement for being a good, capable learner. A more useful way to think about it is: what does the school need to know about my child, and what could we put in place together so the first term goes as smoothly as possible?
Used as prompts rather than a test, a readiness checklist helps you notice what your child already does well, spot where they might need support and turn that into something concrete you can share with the teacher. A "no" next to something is not a sign your child is behind. It is a sign of where the school needs more information from you.
Many of the things that make the first term hard for neurodivergent children are not about learning at all. They are about the day around the learning:
Many parents find the hardest part is not knowing what to say, it is knowing how to start. A simple structure that works in person, by phone or by email:
If you can, put the key points in writing afterwards, and ask your child's nursery or preschool to share a short summary too. A one-page profile of your child, in their own words if possible, is often the thing a busy teacher reads on a hectic first morning.
If you are unsure what support might be available, or how any formal processes work, the school's SENCO and your local authority's SEND information and advice service are good places to start. Rules change, so ask them for the current picture.
Does my child need to be toilet trained, reading or writing before Reception? Children start school at very different stages. If you are worried about a specific skill, raise it with the school and ask what support they offer, rather than trying to get it "fixed" in advance.
What if my child finds the whole thing overwhelming? That is common, and it is exactly the sort of thing to share with the school early.
What if I am not sure school is the right choice for us? That is a legitimate question too. If you are weighing up home education as an option, our Home Education Starter Guide covers the practical first steps. For legal information, we always point families to Education Otherwise, a long-standing UK home education charity.
Our School-Readiness Checklist is a neurodivergent-aware guide for the run-up to school and the first term: practical tips, a script for talking to the school and a fillable profile sheet to hand to the teacher.
