Steps, not streaks
Every skill has four steps: with help, with a reminder, on my own, and I could show someone. Progress means needing less help, not keeping a streak alive.
For autistic, ADHD and PDA teens and young adults
On My Terms
Build independence one step at a time. At their pace, on their terms.
Most apps track whether you did something today. On My Terms tracks something bigger: how much help each everyday skill needs, and how that changes. From with help to on my own, and the young person decides when they're ready to move up.
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- £4.99 a month or £34.99 a year
- Up to 6 people
- Cancel in one tap
- Phone, tablet or computer
Step 2 of 4With a reminder
They chooseYes, move up · or Not yet
Not another daily tracker
It's about how much help a skill needs, not ticking boxes
Routine apps and planners help you get through today. On My Terms helps you see what you can now do on your own, and build on it.
They decide when to move up
After a few times, the app gently asks if they're ready for the next step. Yes or Not yet: both are fine. Nobody is pushed, and nothing is ever taken away.
Real evidence for reviews
A printable report shows which skills moved up, and since when, in their own words. Useful for annual reviews, transition meetings and college applications.
Most trackers
- Did you do it today?
- Streaks, points, badges
- Miss a day and it shows
- Set up by someone else
On My Terms
- How much help does it need now?
- Four calm steps towards independence
- No streaks, no scores, no penalties
- The young person chooses and owns it
The four steps
From "with help" to "I could show someone"
One simple ladder for every skill, from making a hot drink to booking a doctor's appointment.
1With helpSomeone does it alongside me
2With a reminderI can do it if someone prompts me
3On my ownI do it without being asked
4I could show someoneI know it well enough to teach it
Each time they do a skill, they tap Did it today. After five times on different days, the app asks if they're ready for the next step. One step at a time, never skipping ahead.
How it works
Three things to do. That's all.
No timetable and no daily targets. Use it when it helps.
1
Pick a few skills
Choose from over 100 everyday skills, or add your own. Tap + and a skill goes on your Working on list.
2
Tick it when you do it
One tap: Did it today. The card changes straight away, so you know it's saved. Tapped by mistake? Undo.
3
Move up when you're ready
After a few times, a gentle question: ready for the next step? You choose. Your progress builds up in How far I've come.
Preparing for Adulthood
Skills organised around the four Preparing for Adulthood areas
A widely used way of thinking about the move into adult life, so progress makes sense to families, schools, colleges and anyone who offers support. With or without an EHCP.
Independent living
Looking after me, food, home and money.
- Make a snack or sandwich
- Use the washing machine
- Pay for something in a shop
Community inclusion
Getting about, people and friendships, and things I enjoy.
- Cross roads safely
- Use a map app on my phone
- Go to a club or group
Health
Appointments, medication, sleep and knowing my body.
- Book an appointment by phone, app or online
- Take my medication at the right time
- Have a wind-down routine that works for me
Employment and education
Routines for college or work, asking for help, and forms.
- Get ready to leave the house on time
- Say when I don't understand
- Fill in a simple form
On My Terms uses the Preparing for Adulthood areas as a guide. It is an independent tool, not connected to or approved by the Department for Education, NDTi or any local authority.
PDA-friendly by design
Theirs to shape, so it feels like theirs to use
For young people who push back against being told what to do, ownership matters. Everything can be changed, and everything can be put back.
Their wordsRename any skill so it makes sense to them: "Change the duvet cover", not "Change the sheets".
Split big skillsToo big a step? Split it into two smaller skills. Both keep the level reached.
Not for meHide anything that doesn't fit. Hidden skills never count, and there are no "12 of 108" totals.
Own skills and groupsAdd the skills that matter to them, and make their own groups.
Reset to defaultChanged too much? Put one skill, or the whole list, back how it started. Levels are kept.
Calm and privateFour soft colour sets, light or dark, and an optional lock code for shared devices.
My report
Their progress, ready for the review meeting
Print it or save it as a PDF in one tap. The young person chooses what goes in, and can add what they want people to know in their own words.
- Skills grouped by the four Preparing for Adulthood areas
- Skills that moved up, since the last review or any date
- What they're working on now
- "In my own words", for the young person's voice
Alex: my independence skills
In my own words
I like doing things my way. Lists on my phone help me remember the steps.
Skills that moved up (since 1 September)
| Skill | Then | Now |
|---|---|---|
| Make a hot drink | With help | On my own |
| Walk somewhere local on my own | With help | With a reminder |
Independent living
| Skill | How much help it needs now |
|---|---|
| Use the washing machine | With a reminder |
| Tidy my room | I could show someone |
Who it's for
For young people, and the people around them
Teens and young adults
Aged 13 to 25, autistic, ADHD, PDA or simply finding independence hard. Use it with or without a diagnosis. Anyone 16 or over can set it up for themselves.
Parents and carers
See real progress without nagging. Set it up together, agree the starting point, then let them lead. One plan covers up to 6 people.
Schools, colleges and services
Specialist schools, SENCOs, FE colleges, transition teams and supported living. Organisation plans are coming: tell us what you need.
Email us about organisation plans
Simple pricing
14 days free, then one simple price
One plan covers up to 6 people, each with their own skills, levels and lock.
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Yearly
£34.99
a year (£2.92 a month)
- Everything in the app
- Up to 6 people
- Cancel in one tap, any time
Nothing to pay today. We ask for a card so the plan can carry on after the free days without a gap. We email you 3 days before the first payment, and you can cancel in one tap. Cancel before then and you pay nothing.
Why we made On My Terms
Independence skills are often discussed in meetings, written up in reports and turned into targets, while the young person is the last to be asked how they feel they're doing.
On My Terms turns that round. The young person sees how far they've come, chooses what to work on and decides when they're ready for the next step. It's built to be low-demand: no streaks, no scores and no penalties, with wording that invites rather than instructs.
We also make Back on Track, the PDA-friendly home education app.
Questions
Good questions
Quick answer: On My Terms is an independence skills app for autistic, ADHD and PDA teens and young adults. Each everyday skill moves through four steps, from "with help" to "I could show someone". The young person ticks a skill when they do it and decides when to move up. It costs £4.99 a month after a 14-day free trial.
Is On My Terms PDA-friendly?
Yes. It's built around what helps with demand avoidance (Pathological Demand Avoidance, which many people now call a Persistent Drive for Autonomy): the young person chooses, nothing is compulsory, there are no streaks or penalties, and moving up is always their decision. It's a practical tool, not therapy or a diagnosis, and it works with or without a diagnosis.
How is it different from a routine or habit tracker?
Habit trackers ask "did you do it today?". On My Terms asks "how much help does this need now?", and shows that change over weeks and months. Ticking a skill is just the way you get there: the real progress is moving from with help, to a reminder, to on my own.
Who sets the levels: the young person or the parent?
Either, or both together. Most families agree the starting point together, then the young person ticks skills off and chooses Yes or Not yet when they're asked about the next step. Parents and carers can change skills and levels in My skills.
Is it an official Preparing for Adulthood tool?
No. The skills are organised around the four Preparing for Adulthood areas, a widely used way of planning for adult life (including in EHCP reviews for those who have one), so the report makes sense in meetings. But On My Terms is independent and not connected to or approved by the Department for Education, NDTi or any local authority.
What ages is it for?
It's designed for teens and young adults, roughly 13 to 25. A parent or carer can set it up, or anyone 16 or over can set it up for themselves.
Do I need to download anything?
No. It works in the browser on any phone, tablet or computer. Add it to your home screen and it opens like an app, and it works offline once you've signed in.
Can I cancel?
Yes, in one tap from the Account page, any time. We email you 3 days before the first payment, and if you cancel during the 14-day trial you pay nothing.
What happens to our data?
Skills and progress are private to your account. You can download or delete everything at any time from the Account page. See our privacy notice.
Independence, one step at a time
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